My ex moved on so fast. How can I overcome the pain?

So, don't try to compete with them.

Instead, focus on taking care of, solving and healing what you are experiencing right now.

I.e. you thought that you had the perfect deal whereas they had already made up their mind and just weren't as emotionally invested in it as you were.

My wife has a bunch of really attractive friends, and she expects me to never say anything to her about how beautiful they are. Does this seem fair? I love my wife, and just commenting shouldn’t hurt anything, right?

What they do doesn't matter and it's completely irrelevant to your healing process, though it’s valid to hate and judge them harshly for leaving the way they did.

This is why comparing yourself to them in terms of the healing process isn't going to help you in any way, shape or form.

This happened long or shortly before they physically left.

Why does a lot of the YouTube community support the MGTOW movement?

And during this process, they either started seeing someone new who they planned to secure as their rebound option or were busy creating their post-breakup plan.

You both are on polar opposites of the scale.

Simply put, because they have been prepared and you weren't.

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This is why you can't expect them to feel anything close to what you're feeling right now, because you and them are on a completely different stage in the healing process.

On their side, there has been a process of emotionally and mentally checking out while you were still together and while you were under the impression that everything is cool.